The myth of prince charming

Girls want a knight in shining armor to save them. To fall madly in love with them, to whisk them away to a gorgeous castle, and to marry them.
How come the guys out there aren't constantly worrying about whether she's "the one", and why she hasn't bought a ring yet? Why don't the guys plan out their wedding down to every little detail, and even look at a few suits that they might wear on the day?
In general, girls are hard-wired to want to be married and settled down. Even before we've heard of the term "biological clock" and want to get married because of that, we've dreamt of prince charming. Every ten-year-old female knows of Cinderalla, and wants to be just like her.

There really are millions of females out there who want a man to fix there lives. Everyone has the Jerry Macguire line down to memory, they're looking for someone to complete them.

The truth is, no-one completes you. You are a complete being by your very own self. If you have someone special in your life, that's all that they are: they are an important part of your life, but they are not your life itself.

Your life really is your own to live. It turns out as you make it, not as someone else makes it.

At the end of the day, the person you'll spend the most time with is yourself. No-one else can drastically improve your life or yourself.

So, don't expect your knight to be someone in shining armor who'll whisk you away and make you a queen overnight. The only way you can be a queen is by working at it yourself.

If you expect someone else to drastically improve your life, you'll be likely to look for all the wrong thins in a man. Even when you do meet someone great, you'll overburden him with unrealistic expectations, which will either lead to him running away, or you being disappointed.

So even before your seek a knight, make sure that you're not expecting him to be superhuman.

Editing my Blog Template

After a lot of editing, I've finally retained my own picture as the header.
And it makes me think: instead of fooling around with the template, I should get to work on my ebook, or my posts.
Also, I'd like to add ads sometime. But it's a hassle to ad adds... So I guess I'll do that after a few months, after I've got a few readers.

Why Cocktails at 7?

Well, that's what I'm thinking of calling my ebook. I'm still writing it (ok, I've only written two pages so far), and I'd like to make it available for free on this blog. It'll be about relationships--and hopefully, it'll be good.

This blog will deal mostly with relationship and self-improvement issues for women.

But still, why Cocktails at 7? To be honest, the name just popped into my mind. It seemed like the kind of thing independent, single women might do, and it's a bit reminiscent of Sex and the City. Of course, it's not entirely practical for women to constantly be leaving office in time for "Cocktails at 7", but seemed like a fun idea.

Later, I remember that the number 7 is a favorite for most women: I know i'ts my favorite number! In fact, the Pick Up Artists in the book "The Game" by Neil Strauss sometimes used this fact to manipulate women.

And finally, after I'd changed the template of my blog innumerable times, painstakingly learning how to add my own picture, and then abandoned the idea in favor of a serendipticiously found template on another website (credits are mentioned in the template), I remembered something else.

Once, after 10th grade was over, my friends and I were hanging out at a former teacher's house. Our hostess had kindly invited us to lunch, and after it was over, we were left alone in the sitting room. A game of charade began, and the quality of movie names chosen began to quickly spiral downwards. Pretty soon, a very cute guy was acting out the word "cocktail". It was quite amusing :)